You’re setting out the goodies, trying to be helpful, when it happens . that comment you wish you hadn’t heard. It’s a comment said with a calculated grin. Something like: “Wow is, you don’t have to catch it! • You can let it drop. • You can let it sit there at their feet-where it belongs. • The hot potato only burns you if you grab onto it. Their drama stays theirs when you stop carrying it and picture yourself letting that comment fall to the floor, by your choice, as you stay free with a smile. Your 30-second family gathering game plan A quick way to stay grounded and unoffendable: Expect that awkward moment. Then it won’t surprise you. Pick one of those Thought Shifters before you walk in. Pause before reacting even for a couple seconds. Don’t argue with people, just ask questions and listen. Take a brief walk outside to regroup if tension rises. Celebrate one win-even a small one, where you don’t take the bait. You’re not there to compete or prove anything. You’re there to enjoy the family, and observe yourself stay free in the process. Remember: • Your peace doesn’t depend on their opinions. • Your freedom doesn’t rely on their behavior. • Your emotional stability doesn’t require them to act differently. • You’re confidently in control of the one thing that determines how your day goes: Your response.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/thought-shifters/202511/break-free-from-family-drama
Break Free from Family Drama
